Monday, May 11, 2009
This brings to mind a situation a dear niece and her husband are facing. They will (hopefully) be adopting a newborn baby girl who was born to a mother who has seen a World of Trouble and has not had many advantages at all. Now, this baby is in an orphanage. However, if my niece and her husband adopt and raise the child, she will be raised in a loving, nurturing, intellectually stimulating environment. The circumstances of her birth will not determine her future.
Sunday's lesson keyed on some very common sense observations that should (in my opinion) really be daily habits. Four DON'Ts:
- Don't talk on and on (and on!) about yourself or your interests. Learn a little about the person with whom you are talking.
- Don't (again - talk and and on at length) with incoherence. Make your point so someone can understand what you are saying.
- Don't use 'insider' religious jargon (not only can this be boring - not everyone is knowledgeable about your particular religious catch-phrases).
- DO NOT act superior.
Now, to me - whether one is sharing one's particular faith beliefs or just talking generally: these are very good rules. These habits are conducive to building friendships and making life much more interesting.
Several years ago someone shared with me his particular "One Minute Rule." He promised himself that he would not talk about himself more than one minute. Rather, he would learn about others and encourage others to share their stories. He said that even though this was a bit difficult at first (because like all of us: selfishness is sometimes present), he found that his life was really enriched and he made some good and fast friends who are much more interesting than he (I think he was being modest, though).
As for the next items on the above list, I think that is just Good Manners and Being Considerate.